Not trying to make life easy, trying make life worth living

oh cool this is a fun.



incels don’t bother me because i genuinely can’t conceptualize myself as the object of sexual “desire” in any context. the idea of a stranger viewing me as a sex object is fundamentally incompatible with my perception that no one could ever view me in a singular “positive” way.

Sometimes I just scroll through this blog and want to cry. I’ve been like this for so so long. I keep trying so hard.

kidkendoll:

sbastianstan:

LIL NAS X - Panini (2019) dir. Mike Diva

If ya’ll don’t treat him like the gay icon ya’ll treated every straight white girl as I s2g

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ensyme:

my American gf: pound me
me: what’s that in metric

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twostarsinonesphere:

when singing along to hadestown, one must find a suitably large space in which to flail around artfully whilst singing the persephone parts. amber gray expects nothing less

also it’s pretty much mandatory to lower your voice to the lowest register you can possibly go in order to sing the hades parts, even if you’re in the wrong key.

bonus points if you look anguished and tearful while singing wait for me

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heckedy-peg:

winds-and-stardust:

tragicmushroom:

blandyblaugh:

democrips:

fake conversations in your head of you venting to someone

working through trauma by yelling at no one while driving alone

validating yourself by imagining situations where bad things happen to people and you save them

reinforcing trust in your loved ones by imagining situations where bad things happen to you and they save you

Explaining things to your therapist in an imaginary session

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hauntified:

petalya:

petalya:

in therapy my therapist and i were talking about my own feelings of self worth in relationships. and she asked me to say qualities about myself that someone else would be attracted to, on a romantic and platonic level. so i named some things like compassionate, empathetic, etc. and she said “you named things that you can give someone. ways you can serve, rather than ways that you are” and y'all..my mind was blown that’s gonna stick with me forever like she then proceed to tell me actual innate qualities about myself that she liked and thought anyone else would like as well and i hadn’t even considered those because like she said i was focused on things i could do outwardly to attract and maintain connections rather than who i was as a person..goddamn!!! thats tea!!!

With this in mind, this also makes me think of the ways people describe us. When people say the reasons that they love/like you or describe you as a person, are they only naming ways that you serve them? Are they equating your worth with how much you do for them?

ex. “You’re such a good listener. You’re so generous, you’re so compassionate. You’re always there for me. You always hold me down. You’re reliable”

vs.

“You’re so funny! You’re very vibrant. You’re creative, passionate, and intelligent. You’re optimistic. You’re so talented at ____” , etc. I think that’s very telling.

This FUCKED relationships up too because once this hit me, I realized people can just be in love with the way you make them feel instead of who you actually are. ALWAYS pay attention to the last little “vs” but there because it IS super telling

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scorpiogy:

mulletlove:

how the fuck do yall relax in the presence of another human……how 2 stop performing 

oh my god….. never ever have I related to something as much as I relate to this

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